Again I have to write around the details. Here goes a recount of a conversation during which I defended a friend against detractors. My friend volunteers time in a way that benefits these people. Alas, I don’t think I made a dent in their sense of entitlement:
Detractors: I can’t believe that [wonderful person] isn’t doing more.
Me: [Wonderful person] is doing a lot for you with absolutely no reward.
Detractors: [Wonderful person] expects us to pitch in and that is offensive.
Me: It’s completely fair to ask for your help. [Wonderful person] isn’t getting paid for this, you know. And there is a lot to be done.
Detractors: I don’t like the way [Wonderful person] is handling this. [Wonderful person] is asking too much and not giving enough!
Me: Then I suggest you take over the job and do it “right.”
Detractors: I want [wonderful person] to do more!
Me [slowly backing away]: Okay, bye.